| Contents |
| Overview |
| Janice's Life |
| How I Knew Janice |
| In Memoriam |
| Spouse Qualifications |
The first picture above was from my wedding to Janice Elaine Harvey, on May 18, 2003.
The second picture above was my favorite picture of Janice.
The third picture above was her parents favorite picture of Janice.
The fourth picture above is the cremation urn that I chose for her...green was her favorite color, as evidenced by the color scheme on this page...to go with the black background of mourning. Her urn is in a mausoleum in Apopka, Florida, where her parents live.
The fifth picture above is the cremation urn that I have for myself. Janice loved music, and she praised God with her talents.
The sixth picture above is the memorial flower arrangement I had at Second Baptist Church, Little Rock, Arkansas (my church home), in memory of both Janice, and my father, J.D.
Tragically, a heart attack claimed her life on April 27, 2007; 3 weeks shy of our 4th wedding anniversary...she was only 48 years old. This website is dedicated to her memory. My father died in early February, 2007, from pancreatic cancer...just after he and my mother celebrated their 54th wedding anniversary the previous Dec. 20.
Special thanks go to Griffin Leggett Funeral Homes, who handled Janice's funeral...and who will handle mine, if I should die before the Rapture Of The Church. I highly recommend pre-arrangement for funeral planning for everyone...whether you use Griffin Leggett Funeral Homes, or some other funeral home. It can save a lot of stress and grief to those left behind at your death.
After moving to the United States with her family, to obtain medical treatment, Janice became a naturalized U.S. Citizen. She graduated from St. Mary's Catholic Academy in Bronx, New York...then later graduated from Cornell University in Ithaca, New York, with a Bachelor Of Arts Degree in Psychology. After moving to Arkansas, she graduated from the University Of Arkansas at Little Rock, with a Master Of Arts Degree in Psychology.
Throughout her life, she didn't let her disabilities hinder her creativity, or her desire to succeed. Janice was caring, unselfish, and gave of herself in so many ways. Reading and music were her passions. She also had a love for all creatures of God's Creation, and she had a special love for dachshunds. For a look at the two dachshunds that Janice and I had during our marriage, click here.
Anyway, I was at her house, helping her with a computer issue, and was seated in a swivel chair, which was on a threadbare rug on a hardwood floor. She told me to NOT lean back in the chair, but like a ''type A male'', I didn't listen, and the chair basically ''bit me'', tipping over, and cutting a huge gash in my lower back. She said ''OK, take off your shirt'', broke out the First Aid Kit, and began swabbing the wound. A few days later, I had to go to the clinic, due to lower back pain...and the doctor remarked ''whoever worked on this virtually wiped out any chance of infection''...and that stuck with me all these years.
Just before I proposed to her in 2002, I was walking her weenie dog, Fritz... and somehow, the retractable leash came off of his collar, retracted at full speed, and popped me the groin, sending me to the ground in pain. Janice came out, saw me down, and helped me get inside. Embarassingly, I ''had her take a look'', as I thought I was in mortal danger. I asked her if she thought any less of me, and she said ''I give you credit for your common sense...I would have called the paramedics if I had seen blood''. I knew right then that she was the one for me.
Through our engagement, we had numerous instances of ''reading the mind of each other''...where we were ''just thinking about what the other one had just spoken about''. That ''bonding'' strengthened us further, as my parents were originally opposed to the marriage...but they accepted her soon after, in seeing how happy we were together.
We were married on May 18, 2003 at Community Church Of God in Bryant, Arkansas, by her pastor, Leon Steele. While the wedding normally takes place in the brides church, and she moves to her husbands church after the wedding...as a courtesy to Janice, I was at her church throughout our marriage. We spent our honeymoon at DeGray State Park Lodge, north of Arkadelphia, Arkansas...and had planned to go there for a second honeymoon. Sadly, we never got that chance.
A viewing and funeral service was held in Little Rock, Arkansas on May 2 and 3, 2007...followed by cremation, as she had wished. On May 11, 2007, a memorial service was held for her in Apopka, Florida, where the urn of her remains were laid to rest, until The Rapture Of The Church, when she will receive a new, incorruptible, immortal body. If you wish to view the information from the funeral home, including the Online Guest Book, click here.
In lieu of flowers, the family kindly requests that memorials be made to:
1) The Community Church Of God, Bryant, Arkansas
2) The American Diabetes Association, or your local diabetes research group
3) Heart Clinic Arkansas, 10100 Kanis Road, Little Rock, Arkansas 72205.
If The Good Lord does lead me to another virtuous woman, such as Janice was, they will have a very high standard to measure up to... and to even hold a candle to what Janice was. For a look at ''the inner beauty'' that Janice had, click here.
This woman must have the following qualifications...if all of these are not met, the woman should not read any further, as I won't even be interested. While some will say all of this is ''overkill'', the truth is that ''you can't be too careful nowadays''.
1) She must be a strong, committed Christian woman, preferably Southern Baptist, having accepted Jesus Christ as her Lord and Saviour. Janice was well versed in Biblical knowledge, and used her musical and other gifts to praise God.
2) She must not smoke or use tobacco products. To me, kissing a smoker is like licking an ash tray.
3) She must not drink alcoholic beverages. I lost a close friend in college to a drunk driver.
4) She must not have a cursing tongue, especially in regards to taking the Lord's Name in vain. Profanity is the attempt of a feeble mind to express itself forcibly.
5) She must not be squeamish (''sympathy sickness'')...I've been this way since I was 10 years old. Janice knew two psychology professors at the local college, who both have ''sympathy sickness''...and they did not know how to deal with it.
6) She must be willing to take care of my disabilities and needs, as I will try to do likewise with her. I would prefer that she be able to work, as I am no longer able to do so, because of declining health.
7) She must be unselfish, and not harbor petty jealousy. Janice didn't have a selfish or jealous bone in her body. I was engaged once before, over 20 years ago...and, unlike Janice, that female wanted to always go to the most expensive place, and always have me ''to pick up the tab''. She also wanted me to forsake all my hobbies outside of work, and spend every waking moment with her. Marriage is a ''give and take, two way street'' relationship. Janice said that ''I won't make you give up anything that makes you happy''...and whether we ate at the fanciest restaurant in town, or at McDonalds, in Janice's words, ''food is food''. While she offered many times to help and pay for things, I was usually able to do it. However, her thoughtfulness was greatly appreciated.
8) She must be willing to deal with the idea of ''no children''. Because of numerous medical issues, I underwent a vasectomy just before getting married in 2003, so I'm unable to have children. Plus, I had a bad experience over 20 years ago, where an undisciplined child destroyed an expensive umbrella that I had...and the parents had the idea of ''my child would never do something like that''. Janice did not want kids either...and yet, we had an excellent ''romantic life''. The way the world is nowadays, and with my extremely limited income, I can not afford or deal with the extra expense, and emotional hassle of children.
9) She must be committed, trustworthy, and faithful to me. I am not interested in a woman who ''sleeps around'', or who is flirtatious with other men. When a couple is married before God and their peers, they are to exemplify these traits, submitting to each other graciously, and only ''lust and desire for one another''. She must be willing to undergo a test for ''sexually transmitted diseases''. Janice was the only woman I have ever had relations with (we both were sexual virgins when we met), and I have no interest in a woman who has been sexually active with more than her marriage partner.
10) She must be willing to undergo a criminal background check from a law enforcement agency. A couple is to be open to each other in every way...and not to hide things from each other. They're going to know each others deepest, darkest, secrets...never mind just seeing each other naked. Janice and I were extremely open with each other, and it's because of this, while we had our disagreements, we NEVER had a huge fight in all the time we were married.
11) She must not be wanting excess body piercings or tattoos. Janice and I were in complete agreement on both of these. While I can deal with earrings, as many women have them, I have a BIG problem with piercing other parts of the anatomy. From a Biblical standpoint, excessive piercing was a signal that you were a ''slave'' to someone else. As noted above, in a marriage relationship, the couple ministers to each others needs, and it's a two way street concerning committments. Both must be willing to sacrifice for each other, and forsake their own selfish desires. Concerning tattoos, these are akin to ''taking a mark'', such as ''the Mark Of The Beast'' (Revelation 13:18). All those who take this Mark will be condemned forever to the Lake Of Fire, to suffer forever with Satan and his demons. Getting a tattoo applied...let alone removed...is extremely painful...not to mention expensive. Plus, there are dangers of infection from the process.